刚刚才把两个小孩送回家。他们昨天和今天与我们携手完成两个500片的Puzzle。四个人在一起砌图。那砌图是我在几年前,甚至还没有认识我老公之前就买了,其实很容易玩,也很好玩。终于因为小孩们假期,而我们也一直很想和他们spend time, 于是便叫他们过来玩了两天。看来似乎很浪费时间,而我内心其实也很挣扎,因为明知还有很多东西很多事情要处理,却似乎在陪小孩浪费时间。而我这个工作狂, 要不断提醒自己,陪他们是值得的。有谁能真正将自己的生命投资在他人的身上?这两天的时间,让我有些反思。我一直要决定:要陪他们,花时间与他们相处,因 为我爱他们。所以说“爱是要做决定的”。无论那个对象是谁,包括上帝、伴侣、孩子、教会、仇敌等等、爱始终是要做决定的。
Quality or Quantity Time?
by Steve Arterburn
And we pray this in order that you may live a life worthy of the Lord and may please him in every way: bearing fruit in every good work, growing in the knowledge of God. - Colossians 1:10
You’ve heard people say, “I don’t have much time to give my kids, but what I do give is quality time!”
What does that mean?
How can you predict the quality of “quality time?” What constitutes the distinction, “quality”
You can have the most well-planned, sure-fire occasion with your kids spoiled for any number of reasons; and then, on some other occasion, find that a mundane afternoon of errands provide the context for a wonderful time of bonding with them. Such is life.
Quality time can’t be manipulated. It doesn’t happen at your beck and call. Instead, quality time sneaks up on you while spending quantity time with your loved ones. The only way you can ensure quality time is to make sure there’s quantity time and plenty of it.
“The real measure of success is the number of experiments that can be crowded into 24 hours.” - Thomas Alva Edison (1847-1931)
如果我要做妈妈,我真的要做全时间的妈妈!